QA165 QUESTION: What is the best way for me to achieve emotional fulfillment. Can you describe the feelings toward this feeling that a woman should achieve in her lifetime?
ANSWER: Well, in the first place, it is not a question of “should.” If the motivation is, “I should do it because, after all, this is what is expected,” the world says,” Then the motivation is already wrong and will therefore present an obstacle.”
But if a genuine longing exists and, nevertheless, the emotional fulfillment is not forthcoming, then there is definitely an unconscious fear in that woman of the very fulfillment she may consciously long for – perhaps the fear of her feelings, the fear of real intimacy, the fear of exposing herself as she is, the fear of being rejected, the fear of the opposite sex.
All these fears may be very subtle, but they must nevertheless exist if fulfillment does not come. Last but not least, there is the greatest of all fears – the fear of happiness, the fear of fulfillment, the fear of not being able to cope with the fulfillment because the organism is not yet acclimatized to sustain pleasure feelings.
The pleasure feelings are rejected, and therefore the love feelings are rejected. And this is what prevents the fulfillment of men and women alike.
