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QA234 QUESTION: I have a monumental contempt for men, which I’m getting more and more in touch with. And I’m having a lot of trouble connecting that with, underneath, the deep longing and need. I would like you to explain such a connection.
ANSWER: It is quite simple. You see, my dearest friend, you still choose to remain in the level of defense here, for your contempt is nothing but the defense against the belief that your longing can never be fulfilled. And as long as you hide this belief, you can never change it. Do you see? It is as simple as that.
